ON THAT PETTY WAP!

Pettiness: an act recently so celebrated even with its social unacceptability! An act that displays sheer immaturity aimed at garnering attention and pity from those around us whilst fully equipped with a justification as a means to excuse ourselves for being held accountable for bad behavior! 

What I mean by pettiness is, a focus on issues so small and trivial that it's almost silly; especially in a narrow-minded way. It can only be used to describe the quality of a person that's also called "small-minded."

I have fallen prey to this oh so embarrassing act one too many times, so I am an expert on the same (Trust me... 😂😂😂) and I think it’s time someone really said how wrong it is instead of letting social media trick us into thinking it’s something to celebrate and even make merchandise on! (Sigh!) Pettiness is neither cute nor admirable people!!!

So......a couple of years ago, I waited for my boo Bella to get to town so we’d go home together. When we got to the Embasavva stage… the line was ridiculously long! We didn’t have a choice but to get in line. After roughly 30 minutes of standing with little to no movement, some lady decided to be cheeky and came stood in front me.(Woman you aren’t about to cut the line!!! *insert too much eye rolling)

Dej loaf’s Try Me had just come out and boy was I a fan!! It was my life’s theme song, lol! So best believe I wasn’t gonna let this Woman try me!! Oh no hunny! Imma come at you guns blazing!

I proudly wore my petty hat like a crown and tapped this lady’s shoulder and told her loudly, “line huanza nyuma si katikati… there is the back of the line” while proudly pointing at the very end of the line. Bella is looking at me in shock then started laughing coz she knew I wasn’t going to let this go (I was petty as hell you guy! heh!). So the woman is getting fired up coz I was intentionally trying to embarrass her. She told me she was chilling for a cab (in the middle of the line??? Ha-ha! Girl bye!) I told her to go stand somewhere else for that cab not in front of me. There was a little exchange and she moved.

After a while we met again, but this time she was at the end of the line…. And guess what? The petty hat was still intact and I went for her again! Smh! So I her asked loudly where the cab was at? Or the line we were on was to get a cab and we weren’t aware. The lady in front of me was laughing hysterically at my pettiness as she pleaded that I leave the woman alone. Which I did … EVENTUALLY! 

I totally regret my actions to this day! I was there preaching that I was only being honest and the approach she took to cut the line wasn't the best so she deserved it, but I was just looking for an opportunity to show how tough I wanted everyone to think I was and just looking for someone to bully! How many times have I cut the line with reckless abandon? Why was I now trying to crucify this lady for something I have done time and time again? Were my reasons any more justifiable than hers? 

All this are questions whose answers do not work in my favor, just go to show I was wrong for how I conducted myself! All that pettiness ultimately showcases is a person(s) who is either:

·         Insecure;

·         Jealous;

·         Angry;

·         Envious;

·         Spiteful; or

·         In need of attention

I know we have all fallen victim to it, but all in all we need to get to a point where we know what deserves energy and those that DON'T! Let's refuse to fight small battles driven by pettiness! Our lives are bigger and better than that...!!

That lady got home that day by the way! So what did I really achieve?

Spread Love and Light!💋

Njeri :)