Hey Lovely People,
This week my post will
take a different angle but I hope the message will still get home. I have been
looking for online writing jobs because I realized I had quite alot
of free time on my hands. So you get work from an online writing account owner
who pays you for every page you write based on the assignment at hand. One of
my friends happens to own one and she gave me a test to see how well I could
write the kind of assignments they are given.
The first one she gave me
had me out here looking stupid, hahaha!
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| I was like...😂😂😂😂 |
Followed by👇👇👇
because I'm the Queen of uncomfortable/nervous laughs especially when I know I'm screwed. Thankfully I figured it out and I was on to assignment 2 which was to write a 550 words speech on a topic of my choice.
I decided to pick a topic that could easily mesh with my blog. Here goes nothing:
“Ladies and gentlemen, I am more than humbled for the opportunity to address you all. Being part of a Youth Empowerment Summit is something I have always wanted to be part of. When I was in my early 20’s I wish we had such seminars. They bring to our awareness things we will tackle in our day to day life now that we are active participants in the “real world” like people like to call it. My question is though, what world were we a part of before the real world? Beats me. However, life does get alittle technical as we get older, and school doesn’t really prepare us for what to expect.
Things as important as building self-confidence and self-love are not concepts that are really covered yet they are key components in how we navigate through life. The importance of choosing friends who add value to our lives and us being the same for others isn’t covered either. All we are told is birds of a feather flock together and that entire hullabaloo. Okay, my friend and I are nice people but what do we talk about other than school or work and guys? EXACTLY MY POINT! I am sure there is more to life than just that.
With every meeting or social gathering, there is a constant exchange. The value of the exchange, however, will differ with the different people we meet. I recently met with a close friend last weekend and he is my inspiration today. He is a firm believer of being a Value-Added friend i.e. Inspiring his friends to take on new challenges, giving new perspectives where he can, being a better listener, and suggesting new and better ways to do certain things. The thing is though, you cannot be all this to people who are not the same to you. There is a need to evaluate the current relationships you have and see what value they add to your life. You cannot be people’s doormat. It’s a give and take. I build you, you build me. If it does not add into your life, then is there really a point in investing in it anymore? Things you may want to consider are how much money, time and effort (MTE) are you investing and finally who are you adding the value to. Don’t get caught up with “relationship-freeloaders” people!
People who you have met for a short time may have even better intentions for you than people you have known all your life. Leave a legacy in the minds of people you have deep conversations with, based on all the new and interesting ideas and perspectives you have shared.
No matter how small the contribution, let it be given in an authentic way, let it be genuine and unassuming. There is an Economics principle called Returned Value. It basically states that with any form of value you put out in the world, it shall be fully returned to you in a different form that will obviously be beneficial to you at the time.
Do not grow slack in adding value to your friends and family willingly and openly and that good karma is going to find its way right back to you.
I hope I added value to you today. Thank you."
After reading my fake speech, my question to you is, are you a relationship freeloader i.e. you are there to receive all the perks that come with the relationship/friendship yet you add no value to your friends' lives or are you a Value Added Friend?
Spread Love &Light
Njeri💋
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That might be a rather tricky/hard question to give a conclusive answer.
ReplyDeleteAnyhow, I've realized, the more we grow up, the circle of friends grows smaller by the day. We weed out the "just friends" and hold onto the real friends.
I'm aware that, the number of friends doesn't really matter, but who will be there for you when you are down, at your very worst the . Dubbed as "ride or die".
Back to your inquiry. I think at the moment, I'm more of a value added friend than a relationship freeloader. But at the end of the day, I'm not the one to judge.
its like you read my mind every time you write.
ReplyDeleteI like to read the article.
ReplyDeleteThank you