TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR OWN ACTIONS!!

I swear the amount of times I've chosen to point fingers and play the victim has been more than enough times! *shame on me*

Sometimes the shame that comes with having done something wrong and someone expecting you to admit may be alot to handle at the time and as an ego protective measure you may  have resulted to blame game or lying! I have a feeling you relate...

So why is it so hard to just say, "I'm responsible for what has happened," or at least be accountable for the role you played in the commission of the mishap!? We do not want to allow facts to get in the way of our feelings, because that's what is most important for us to protect. Instead of learning from past mistakes and growing personally, we view rejecting responsibility as a much easier alternative and helps protect the ego from being bruised. Which is totally unfortunate because ultimately all this brings is more problems! The accused cannot believe that you are blaming them for everything like you weren't part of it and you are there hella defensive even when low key you know you've got blood on your hands too. So what's with all the games? And you know two can play that game, right? It becomes a pile up of more and more unnecessary childishness and avoidable blame games.

Standing ovation or nah? .... I think NOT!

So funny story (not so funny, lol) I had gone to one of the clubs in town to meet up with a friend at the time. He was kind of drunk so I thought it was a good idea to put my bag in his just so that I could watch one bag! Stupidest idea to date! I sat down for the better part of the night to look after the bags as we had conversation. If you know me, I love dancing so it was kind of a bummer I couldn't dance but I could suck it up! So my friend said he'd look after the bags, I should go dance. I wasn't so sure it was a good idea but he said he was good, so I was like why not?

Moves like Jagger! (So corny, I know! Lol)

So some guy came to sit with us at the table and my friend was indulging him and giving him liquor. So anyone would have assumed they knew each other. How I wish that was the case! This guy disappeared with the bags!!!!!!!!!!!!! The next thing I knew my friend was shouting and breaking bottles. Haha! I swear I've never seen anything like it. It's funny now,  but at the time it wasn't.

It was a little something like this... He went ballistic I kid you not! haha

So this chauvinistic excuse for a human being had the audacity to tell me that it was my fault the bags were stolen because I am the woman!

WHAAAAAAAT!!! You are kidding right, haha! 

Oh My Living God! He wasn't! I did not know I doubled up as a watchman wa vibeti! What kind of nonsense was this? Granted, I should have been keener but I cannot be fully to blame yet he had assured me not once or twice he'd watch the bags. What role did he play in this? 

The mere fact that I acknowledged my part in it all made me realize that there are idiots in the world (I'm still alittle bitter.. I'm human, leave me alone! hahaha) and that I need to be more careful when I go out.

So all I’m trying to communicate with this week's post is that before you start throwing blame around, sit your behind down and see if you had a hand in the situation you are in, establish what you should have done better, apologize and do better. Simple.As.That.

 Watchman wa Vibeti,

Njeri💋💋