WISDOM NUGGET 💡

Has something so devastating happened to you or someone close to you and you saw how everything changed for them! Pain and trauma have a way of changing people and how they view life. Some people get knocked down by the sudden life changing event and dust themselves up and fight through it.... Others have the hardest time getting past it but once they do,they come out a different person... others barely make it out! Some people really start to find their identify in the pain and the hurt that they don't remember who they were before it all. The pain is their familiar place. As a means to suppress all the internal war they are experiencing, some turn to alcohol, drugs, cutting themselves, self medicating.... These are things we see around us all the time. We just don't really know how much someone is going through and as per usual we are always so quick to judge. You know I'm right! This year alone,I feel like I have gotten the opportunity to meet pretty i

I swear the amount of times I've chosen to point fingers and play the victim has been more than enough times!  *shame on me* Sometimes the shame that comes with having done something wrong and someone expecting you to admit may be alot to handle at the time and as an ego protective measure you may  have resulted to blame game or lying! I have a feeling you relate... So why is it so hard to just say, "I'm responsible for what has happened," or at least be accountable for the role you played in the commission of the mishap!? We do not want to allow facts to get in the way of our feelings, because that's what is most important for us to protect. Instead of learning from past mistakes and growing personally, we view rejecting responsibility as a much easier alternative and helps protect the ego from being bruised. Which is totally unfortunate because ultimately all this brings is more problems! The accused cannot believe that you are blaming them for

As I cry in my bed at 3.36 am at the feeling of insufficience in every sense of the word... My question is how do I always end up here? In this same damn state? When will it ever get easier? Will I ever get to a point where I wholly love and accept myself in all my flaws and misgivings? Or is this just some hogwash we read in articles and blogs? Have you?  Being exactly a month away from turning 25 I always thought if all other things failed me .... I knew all the work I had put in on my journey to self love would have paid off by then. I'd be happier at least in that regard... But here I am crying my eyes out feeling like ugly Betty only with alot more chub to carry around. So how do people get out of this hole? Nobody should dare open their mouth and tell me to go work out, that I'll love myself then! What about all the scars I have? Will the gym remedy that too? What about my overly bruised ego from comments I've received about my weight, how exactly w

Hey People!! So to answer the question, YES, WE CAN! *Insert Obama Voice* Gratitude is the warm or deep appreciation we have for kindness or benefits received.  Let's not confuse this with indebtedness which is the feeling of debt or owing. It does not necessarily carry a feeling of joy and freedom but a sense of need or obligation. It is often associated with guilt because there is this need to repay or to return. There are two qualities of gratefulness : Appreciation : Recognizing that something is valuable to you, which has absolutely nothing to do with its monetary worth Gratis: Freely given to us We live in a consumerist society whose main focus is what we do not have or what others have and we don't which ultimately leaves little to no room for gratitude which is the appreciation of what we already have. One sunny afternoon, I got  home early from uni! Class was cancelled... Oh happy day! So I thought....  I went to bed

Hey baby girl! So, a couple of days ago, a dear friend of ours sent us a blog post by Biko Zulu titled  Letter To My 20-Year Old Self    and I thought it would be awesome to share with you some of the life gems I have picked up over the years. On the real,you will make tons and tons of mistakes, some so stupid, some understandable, some due to arrogance, some due to pride, some just to make a point, smh . Unfortunately there are some of which you will foolishly not learn from the first time, but when your thick skull does choose to learn, the lessons you shall acquire from the same will help you navigate through life easier and from a wiser perspective! 'Never a failure, always a lesson,' said Rihanna (Groupie Alert!!!😻😻😻 She'll release some bomb music... Just you wait, hehe!) Njeri, over the years you always wanted to be everyone's rainbow when it rained hailstones in their lives.. You always wanted to be the understanding one and the one with all the s