DEAR NJERI: LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF

Hey baby girl!

So, a couple of days ago, a dear friend of ours sent us a blog post by Biko Zulu titled Letter To My 20-Year Old Self  and I thought it would be awesome to share with you some of the life gems I have picked up over the years.

On the real,you will make tons and tons of mistakes, some so stupid, some understandable, some due to arrogance, some due to pride, some just to make a point,smh. Unfortunately there are some of which you will foolishly not learn from the first time, but when your thick skull does choose to learn, the lessons you shall acquire from the same will help you navigate through life easier and from a wiser perspective! 'Never a failure, always a lesson,' said Rihanna (Groupie Alert!!!😻😻😻 She'll release some bomb music... Just you wait, hehe!)

Njeri, over the years you always wanted to be everyone's rainbow when it rained hailstones in their lives.. You always wanted to be the understanding one and the one with all the solutions .... all at the expense of yourself! I wish you learnt the importance of putting yourself first early enough hunny; it would have saved you alot of heartache. You carried over the 'savior syndrome' even in your relationships because somehow it gave you a sense of purpose! It helped you feel like you are achieving something as well as making you feel better about yourself. That was not love... that was a day job you had signed up for ,whose means of payment was by raising your self esteem! 

 "Love is a gift.. not an investment!!' said one wise man!

Loving someone should never be like a job! Baby there is alot of real love around you, allow yourself to experience it! It is waiting for you to take down the walls and go for it!

I know low self esteem has been something you have really had to struggle with over the years. High school did a number on you babe, I know, and you don't know how to get out of that head space where you are always feeling inferior and the quick weight gain isn't really helping! But you are fine as hell Ma' and let me let you in on a little secret

Hahaha! You don't have to change a thing, the world will change its heart! The minute you start to believe this, is the minute you will start to enjoy your life more freely without fear of how you look, what people think or if you are good enough!It won't happen overnight but every step towards it is growth in itself! Let the world see how beautiful you are both inside and out! 💖

Ain't no man equipped to solve your personal problems! You need to be in a place where you feel comfortable with yourself and have learnt the art of self love. This will let you understand your worth.. things you will and will not stand for.. understand how exactly you wanna be loved as well as establish your weakness and embark on the journey to better yourself! Stop getting into meaningless relationships and relying on your partner for things he will never be able to give you and then get mad that you are not getting what you expected! It is colossal waste of time and energy!

You don't always have to be so damn accommodating! Damn! Have a stand! If it walks like a duck! Quacks like a duck and even looks like a duck... Its a bloody duck! Call it out if need be, or get away from it as quickly as you run away from chicken woman! We both know you have some Catherine Ndereba in you! 

Use her more scaredy cat!lol 

(Just so you know, you'll get on an Embasavva one fine afternoon at Donholm while heading to town with your earphones on. You won't hear the chickens below your seat until you get to Rikana Jogoo Road when the owner is trying to get them out. Giiiiiirrrl! You will cry like a baby and jump on the gentleman beside you! You don't need to keep wearing those earphones.. You almost had a mini Heart attack! 😂😂😂)

I know your are so convinced that when Drake said:

"You only live once: that's the motto, ni**a, YOLO

And we bout it every day, every day, every day

Like we sittin on the bench, ni**a, we don't really play"

He was talking to you or something coz hunny we both know how in the moment you can be and how much you wanna grace the world with your dance moves! haha!

But your booty would do with a break boo!! Read a book! Spend a Saturday night indoors with your girls! Hangout with your mum and catch her up on your life! Sleep early! Try a new recipe! Going out is NOT the only way to have fun! You kind over do it... Pump the brakes!

You need to learn to be patient! The need for instant gratification in all that you do will make you feel like a failure, yet all you needed to do was wait it out alittle bit!

"We want to reap the second after we sow, but this isn't how it works with dreaming big and praying hard. We need the patience of the Planter. We need the foresight of the farmer. We need the mindset of the sower."

Apply this!

And before I forget, Happiness is an inside job!!!

I know I shall pick up on more of these lessons over the years and I promise to keep tabs on the things I learn! Until next time...

Spread Love and Light!💋

Older and Wiser Njeri :)

PS: If you would like to share some of the things you would like to tell your younger self, feel free to do so in the Comments Section! I am sure we can all learn from each others experiences, so let's grow together!