THE PROCESS

Hello Hello..(insert coasterian accent, hehe! Mpaka the hand movement that goes with it. I know a mental pic just registered! Objective Achieved😋)

Hope I had you at hello too😉😉😉

So, how you been? Tell me life is good with a little bumps on the road but you've got this? And if not, are you seeking help? Had you achieved your goals for the 3rd quarter of the year? Have you set other goals for the last quarter? What mental space are you in this last quarter? (The comment section is there for all the responses you want to give... I'd be happy to read your responses)

I'll start us off, just to get you a little comfy.

Q: How you been?
A: I've been quite fine to be honest. Distracted but good.

Q: Tell me life is good with a little bumps on the road but you've got this? And if not, are you seeking help?
A: What is life without speed bumps? So, despite the curve balls, I got a little bruised on the journey but I KNOW I've got this.

Q: Had you achieved your goals for the 3rd quarter of the year?
A: To be honest not all of them. But I finally moved out of my parent's house and I dare say, that has been the 2nd best thing to happen to me this year after Admission to the Bar. I am over the moon!

This is definitely my happy dance, cos hot damn, I'm as thrilled as M.J

Q: Have you set other goals for the last quarter?

Mmmh, like 2, lol!*hides face* but I wanna take this time to work on the ones I didn't achieve in the course of the year. I didn't see a need to add so many on to a list that wasn't fully completed. 

Q:  What mental space are you in this last quarter? 
A: I'd say a great space. But it's taking a minute to adjust to the new responsibilities and transitioning to being fully independent and the freedom.Yes, you read right, the freedom was what I was seeking and yearning for, but there is a certain anxiety attached to it for some reason. I feel like its there to test you somehow. To whom much is given, much is required... so am I wrong to think there is a test attached low-key?

Even if you don't jot down your answers to the questions in the comments section, I humbly request you answer them for yourself as a self assessment tool. A little (self) accountability goes a long way.

Anywho, I know you are wondering at what point I'll get to the point of the blog post. Am I right, or am I right?😏

Right?

Haya Haya, tuliza boli! (I have been waiting with baited breath to use this swahili words I can't use in kawa conversations, hehe!)

The process, as the post is titled, is of the roller coaster that has been moving out. 

I'll sum it up:

I WASN'T READY!!!!😂😂😂

I always thought house hunting would be such a breeze as long as you knew the area you want to stay (can you smell the ignorance?), the only issue would be getting the items and arranging them...smh!

Lo and behold... it was not a joke. If God didn't send some very amazing humans my way I am sure it would have taken longer than it did.(Thanks guys💖) Hiyo Waiyaki Way ingeniita jina ju ya ile kuzurura I would have needed to do. Weh!

Sometimes when you fall in love with the idea of things as opposed to really understanding what is really required of you to accomplish them... a rude awakening awaits. 

I could not wait to have a place I call my own, but I swear I did not fully comprehend how costly it would be. My God! The rent, deposit, buying of items for the house, shopping for food, electricity, water, garbage, curtains, cleaning equipment,mattress, bed, carpet ... the list goes on and on. And don't forget you still have to have enough for transport to work as well as vegetable purchases and other items plus savings. 

This experience has taught me the real value of money. I know, I know, I am a late bloomer, and I am not ashamed to admit it. But better late than never, right? 

Honestly, never having lived by myself (no hostel or anything during university days), did not put me in positions where I needed to really budget the money I was given to meet all my needs so as to avoid lacking important things, i.e. food. All I needed to care about was fare and lunch, bas! And I was good to go.

My people if you are planning on moving out, please save intentionally for it and slowly buy items as you await to move.  

Because of my kiherehere, I moved sooner than I needed to thus I did not manage to buy some things that I should have prioritized and properly budgeted for e.g. bed. It should have been on the top 5 list, but not for this dreamer. I had set my mind on moving at a certain time and that had to happen come what may. So, its safe to say I have enough room to host a football match, but I have filled it with love. Does that count? ha-ha! If it does, then I'm doing great 💪

As a disclaimer, I am not writing from a point of regret, but from a point of acknowledging I could have done better planning and taken my time.This is a product of Self assessment and Accountability!
(Told y'all they come in handy. I got you😎)

On top of all that... the paranoia is real guys. TOO REAL! Every sound is suspect.. I activate ninja position😂😂😂

😂😂😂

I'm just being silly, but on the real uwoga is real. Sleeping the first couple of days was what we commonly refer to as a rumor,ha-ha! It took a while to get to normal sleeping patterns, but I'm finally comfortable but I have to close all the doors at all times. No shame!  

All in all, this has been a great experience to say the least. It's a teacher and an eye opener. Learning to prioritize is a newly acquired skill set that is mad vital during this process.

To anyone planning on moving out and starting life on their own, sweetie:

• Please take your time. You'll be better for it;
• Do your research well on the area you wanna live so that you know estimated rent rate, research on the prices of household items in order to have a clear savings goal;
• Do not do it because everyone is doing it (you'll be paying the bills solo);
• Ask for help because you cannot do everything by yourself, ask your folks and peers who have moved out for guidance and last but not least: 
• ENJOY THE JOURNEY

I wanna give a huge shout out to everyone who has made this goal a reality for me. Your support, love and assistance is appreciated fully. Love each and everyone of you.

If you have any funny "moving out" stories do not hesitate to write it in the comments section. Lets laugh at our struggles. What else could we possibly do?😂

Na hizo house warming gifts zianze kukuja sasa... haha!

Spread Love and Light,

Njeri the Dreamer💋