HOW HONEST IS TOO HONEST?🤔🤔🤔

Is there something like too honest??? Or is it just something people came up with to protect their egos from reality?

Honesty:

A virtue so few have yet everyone claims to have it;

A trait so many want to portray and act like they can handle it, yet are not emotionally positioned to take it from someone else;

A trait that may often come out as rude and bruising yet the intention was pure

Don't you just hate it when someone says, "chills for who?" yet for starters, you had no intention for the statement to come off so blunt even though you approve the message.. or is it just me?

I feel like it takes away from the true intention of the message. Even though it may be trivial.

Late last year I was invited to a surprise birthday party. Everything was going pretty well. Our hommie Omosh had whipped up some fire food.  Good music was playing. The surprise aspect didn't fail(Thank you God!). So it was time to cut the cake. We are all around the dinner table; some seated some standing because the seats weren't enough. Peter's girlfriend had just arrived and being the gentleman that he has always been he carried his seat to his girlfriend. Some guy at the table was impressed by Peter's actions and said he was a gentleman too, tusimwone hivyo!

Being the loudmouth that I am, I had to chime in on that because I disagreed completely. I said, "how are you a gentleman? You are seated yet so many ladies are standing around you?!"

You should have seen everyone's face😮😮😮 they made it seem like I sucked the life out of his ego with a straw. Slow yet unimaginably painful☠️

One of the other guys slithered off his seat faster than you can say "Chills for who?" because that's all that followed 😂😂😂 That guy turned red in the cheeks from embarrassment despite his dark complexion. I felt a little guilty after, won't lie because he didn't speak much after that 😕

So, wasn't that an honest comment aki? Or was I wrong for it? Why was I feeling bad for stating an honest observation?

Is there a line we shouldn't cross when it comes to speaking our mind on obvious things?

Btw I have so many of these stories where I said the truth but I was made to feel bad about it! I really find this confusing. Maybe I don't have enough social intelligence to know when to I need to pump the brakes. I was four years old we went to visit my grandparents. My grandma's friends also came to visit. So this certain lady kept insisting she wants to hold me but I kept saying no. As she continued to pursue me, my impatience got the best of me and I blurted out, "sikutaki ju wewe ni mchafu!" The horror on my mum's face! I was so unbothered with what I just said. My mother, on the other hand, was like..

Funny thing everyone else took it pretty lightly and started laughing because they low-key agreed but weren't ballsy enough to tell it to her like his 4-year-old loud mouth could.

My burning questions are:
Everyone is always saying how they keep it 💯 but do we really keep it all the way 💯 or only to the level that is approved by the general public? Which is what, a mere 25%? Why is lying so easy for us? I know it saves us from a lot of trouble but shouldn't we be accountable for our utterances?

There is no conclusion to this post because clearly, the writer has a problem identifying the line at times. I just really need y'all to tell me, how honest is too honest?

Spread Live & Light

Njeri💋

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